This page is entitled simply

and it is where you will find most anything.  I may post some short essays that I have written, my thoughts about being gay, things that happen in my life, my ranting and raving... as I said, most anything.

Straight people aren't normal.  There are just more of them.
Think about it a minute.  Who decides what's normal?  Whoever's in the majority, that's who.  So if gay people were the majority, being gay would be 'normal', right?  Makes sense to me!

"The next time someone asks you, 'Hey, howdja get to be a homosexual anyway?' tell them, 'Homosexuals are chosen first on talent, then interview, then the swimsuit and evening gown competition pretty much gets rid of the rest of them."

-- Karen Williams

For the past several weeks, I've had my own "coming out" story on this page.  But it wasn't the greatest, and was actually kind of depressing, so I've taken it off.  Everything turned out OK (don't get me wrong).  It's just that there were some not so happy times getting to the time where everything turned out OK.

For those that read the story, here's an update.  I'm out to my family!  It wasn't as bad as I really expected.  In fact, it kind of happened by accident.  My brother Jeff and I were both home for the weekend (he was the only one in the family who knew about me) and we were in the family room talking.  We thought we were alone.  He started asking me about the "boyfriend situation".  Well, my mom was in the next room and heard everything we said!  She came in and said "I think your dad needs to hear this."  I thought I was dead!

Well... a big family conference that night.  I won't go into all the details or all that was said and done, but it was an evening I'll never forget! For the most part, everybody's reaction was "So what else is new?"  Bunch of smart asses, my family! <grin> Seems they all knew me much better than I ever thought they did.  Never underestimate the love your family has for you.  

So I'm "out".  Does that mean you should start shouting to the world that you're gay?  No, it does not!  Your circumstances may be entirely different than mine.  Coming out requires some serious thought and planning.  So please give it the thought and planning it deserves, because it is a very serious step.  Visit some of the links on my Links page, do some reading, talk about it with somebody who you know you can really trust.  Be sure you have a pretty good idea in advance how your family and friends might react to your news, and know what your response to their reactions will be.  Just please be sure you are well prepared, and be careful!  It's not pleasant I know being "in the closet" and having to pretend you are somebody you're not, but please please carefully consider what the consequences of coming out of the closet might be.  Sometimes it might be better to just stay in there a little longer.  All I'm trying to say is be very sure you know what you're doing when you swing that closet door open!

One night last semester three of us were just sitting around the apartment talking and having a few beers. Present were myself (gay), my roommate (straight) and a close friend of ours (also gay). As the night progressed, the talk of course turned to sex. During the course of the conversation my roommate turned to our friend and asked "When did you decide to become gay?", to which our friend replied "When did you decide to become straight?"

Now I know a lot of people do not agree with me on this, but I don't believe your sexual orientation is something that you decide or choose. I think it's part of who you are, just like the color of your eyes, your height, or your hair color. I do not remember a particular point in time when I decided that I was going to be gay. It's just the way I've always been. I have never been physically attracted to the female sex.

And speaking of sex, what's the big deal? Is sex all that being gay is about? Don't get me wrong, I enjoy sex just as much (if not more!) than the next guy, but I don't think that being gay is all about sex. Nor do I think that being gay means wanting to jump the bones of every male you see (which is what many straight guys seem to think). Gay guys have exactly the same feelings and emotions as straight guys. The only difference is that ours happen to be directed to a member of the same sex. We want somebody to share our lives with, somebody to love and care for, a "soul mate", just the same as straight guys.

So why are gays such a threat to society? Sure, most of us will never father children. But is the human race in danger of extinction? I don't think so. And every statistic I've ever seen shows that almost all the child abuse and molestation is done by heterosexual males. The only difference between the way I live my life and the way that the other 90% (if you believe that 10% thing) lives theirs is who I choose to share my life with, who I choose to love, and what I do in my bedroom at night after the lights are out. And as far as I'm concerned, those things are nobody's business but mine and whoever I choose to share them with.

OK, there you have my thoughts on being gay. I shared them all with my friends that night. You are definitely free to agree or disagree. The Forum is open!

Hey guys!  I've added a message board to the site!  Click on the "Forum" button to get to it.  Could be a lot of fun.  Let's talk about whatever you want to talk about.  Have a question about something?  Maybe somebody will have the answer.  Want to talk about your boyfriend?  Hey, we do too!  (hehe)  Anyway, hope you'll use it!

And, have I mentioned?  Webmasters - join the Gay Teen Dudes web ring!

I am often asked if I am really who I say I am.  The answer:  yes, no, maybe.  The internet is a wonderful place.  It is an anonymous place, a place where anybody can be whoever or whatever they want to be.  For that very reason, it can also be a dangerous place.  I'm not naive enough to believe that everything everybody has told me on the internet is completely true, and that everybody is exactly who they say they are.  I would like to believe that, since I am by nature a painfully honest person.  One of the things I truly hate is being lied to, and one of the things I truly hate to do is lie.  You can believe that I am male, gay and 19 years old.  You can believe the things I have written on this site as far as my personal feelings and the things that happen in my life.  Is my name really Christopher Jacob McPherson?  Is the picture on the Personal page really of me?  Do I really trust everybody on the internet enough to reveal my true identity and location?  That, my friend, I am going to leave entirely up to you.  Believe it if you will, don't if you won't.  That decision is yours, and I leave it with you.